Cindy Dole is the host of a wonderful weekly radio show in Los Angeles. It's on KFWB, a CBS affiliate every Saturday at 2 pm. Cindy generously gave me the opening hour this past week. I hope you enjoy and ... do become a fan of Cindy's!
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
You can call in the professional organizer, spend a fortune at The Container Store, announce your plans to friend and foe alike, take time off work and ... still never get organized. Why? Because deep in your heart you don't want to surrender the control you assume have over your life, your space and others through the 'tool of chaos.'
It took years for me to recognize these clients when I entered their homes. Now I see the signs almost immediately. I don't want to waste your money and my time on a fool's errand. I've learned to speak up and ask if the person really wants the changes that an organized, peace filled, nurturing environment will bring. And are they willing to do the work? If we decide a mistake has been made, I willingly leave. I learned my lesson the hard way. Over the past 20+ years there have been 3 people who weren't ready for order but I stayed determined to help them. The problem is you can't help someone who doesn't want what you're offering! (And that goes for all relationships, doesn't it?) If you're a professional organizer just getting started, learn to read the signs. Your client is unconsciously setting you up for failure! If you call them on their behavior, they have a choice: stop or change.
As you read these words what comes up for you? Are you organized? Do you start projects and never finish them? Do you begin a project and allow yourself to get side tracked with more 'fun' activities like Facebook, e-mail, or the phone? What is your avoidance tool? I truly believe you have to understand the past and what created this behavior before you can create something new, wonderful, organized and ... lasting! One Year to an Organized Life is filled with journal prompts that help you get at the root cause of your delaying tactics.
There is power, control and I might even say a kind of grace when you live with an environment that serves, supports and nurtures you. I grew up in one. I've always lived in one. I've created them for other people for over 20 years. And with my books I can guide you to the experience. All you have to do is abandon the game.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Perhaps a more accurate title for this blog would be: 'The best laid plans of mice and men.' The day I was to fly East another huge snowstorm hit Boston and I didn't see how I could make the trip work to my advantage. I grew up in Brooklyn and I know all too well the exhausting ritual of trudging through the snow. One too many times I was poised at the top of the subway steps only to come to my senses and return home. Boston? Let's look to the spring.
What is a 'mid course correction?' Sometimes in life you are headed in a specific direction when suddenly you realize you need to zig or zag a slightly different way to reach your destination. The computers on the big jets do this automatically. I've heard pilots say you are off course more than you are on during a flight. In life we can't be rigidly devoted to one solution. We may get additional information that clearly points us to a new path or solution. I wanted very much to go to Boston but had a mid course correction called one big snowstorm! Have you had any corrections lately in your organizing plans?
If you are a Facebook person, I invite you to check out 'Regina Leeds, The Zen Organizer.' It's the page I created to respond to questions about all of the books in the 'One Year to ...' series. Please stop by and leave a comment or post a question. I'm there every day. Financial Planner Russell Wild stops by on Tuesdays to offer a money tip; Meagan Francis offers parenting advice on Wednesdays and the week ends with Feng Shui Friday and the Feng Shui Guy, Ariel Joseph Towne. We're trying to build a vibrant community. Please join us!
If you feel a bit disheartened that your New Year's Resolutions went by the wayside, take heart: this week it's the Chinese New Year. Celebrate the Year of the Rabbit. It's never to late to achieve your goals which is of course what resolutions really are. Every midnight ushers in a new day that is waiting for you to write a chapter of your story. A day that is fresh and clean and waiting to be explored, created and investigated. What are you waiting for? Hop to it! (I couldn't resist!).
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- I will always be grateful I grew up in Brooklyn, New York. It was a rich atmosphere that introduced me to different races, creeds and professions. It seemed that anything was possible if you were willing to work hard to achieve your goals.I'm a yogi which means that my spiritual path is that of yoga principles that have been handed down for over 5000 years. Yoga is an ancient philosophy based on the Gita, the sutras of Patanjali and yes, the Bible. The postures are a key element as is meditation. We honor all paths.I got my first dog when I was 6 years old after a full year of begging. She was a collie and her name was Queenie. As an adult I've had 2 golden retrievers. A female named Miss Katie who came into my life when she was 3 months old and an ancient male golden who came to me when he was 15. I'd like to have a Great Dane next but we'll see what the universe has in store.I've been organizing clients for over 24 years and writing about it for over ten.